When all of our doubts, worries, and insecurities come to a head, we always think to ourselves, “I wish I was someone else.” We always assume that others, or rather, the majority of people, are better than we are. When, in fact, the majority of people are more terrified than we are.
Imagine you are at a wedding, you notice a beautiful girl sitting alone, casually sipping a glass of wine. “She seems to be completely calm and confident,” you say to yourself. Nonetheless, if you could see through her transparent mind, you would see a slew of clouds of emotions. You would be surprised to learn that she is wondering,
"Are people concerned about why I'm sitting here alone?" Why are people not attracted to me? My ankles bother me because they seem to be too skinny. I wish I had my best friend's intelligence."
“Whoah! What else should he ask for?” we think to ourselves when we see a young business owner. “I hate my wide eyes,” he murmurs to himself as he looks in the mirror. I am not sure why my friends will not talk to me. I’m hoping Mom and Dad will always be able to work things out.” Isn’t it amusing? We look at other people and enviously wish we could swap places with them because they seem to be so flawless, while they look at us and think the same thing.
Often Times We Defy Our Self Confidence
We are uncomfortable in the presence of those who are insecure in the reality of us. When we devote ourselves in desperation, we develop low self – esteem, loss of confidence, and faith in self-improvement.
Often you find that you have a bothersome habit, such as chewing your fingernails or getting a foul mouth, and you are the last one to notice.
BE CONFIDENT WITH A HEART
My friend is one of those people who never gets tired of talking. Furthermore, she is the only one in most discussions that seem to be interested in what she has to say. As a result, while she is around, all of our other friends prefer to avoid the circles. She has no idea how severely she is becoming socially handicapped, eventually influencing the people in her life.
Often, open your mind and heart. In exchange, you may want to provide constructive criticism to your friend, which will help her improve.
LISTEN TO YOUR FRIENDS WHO CAN SAY CRITICISM DIRECTLY
One of the keys to self-improvement is listening and talking to a trusted friend. Find someone with whom you can talk about even the most sensitive subjects.
"Do you think I'm a jerk?" "Do I still sound too argumentative?" "Do I speak too loudly?" "Does my breath smell?" "Do I ever bore you when we're together?" Maybe this would make it clear to the other person that you are involved in the process of self-improvement. Do not offer her responses like "Don't exaggerate!" instead, lend her your ears for feedback and critiques.
“Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all,” says Whitney Houston in one of her songs. That is right. To love someone, you must first love yourself. Keep in mind that you cannot offer what you do not have.
LEAD BY EXAMPLE
Allow others to see that you are a reflection and a result of self-improvement before telling them how to improve themselves. Self-improvement makes us happier people who encourage others, which in turn inspire the rest of the world.
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
From considering yourself, second-class citizens. You need to forget about the endless cycle of “If only I were richer, if only I were skinner or sexy, and so on.” The first step in self-improvement is accepting your true self. We must refrain from contrasting ourselves to others in discovering that we have several more grounds to despise them. After all, we all have insecurities. There are defects in everything.
All have insecurities. Nobody is without flaws. Better stuff, better features, better body parts, and so on are always on our minds. On the other hand, life does not have to be flawless for people to be content with themselves.
You cannot achieve self-improvement and self-love by proclaiming to the world that you are excellent and the strongest. It is the virtue of contentment and acceptance. We continue to feel contented and fulfilled as we begin to change ourselves.
At this point, we established that:
- LISTEN TO YOUR FRIENDS WHO CAN SAY CRITICISM DIRECTLY
- Find someone with whom you can talk about even the most sensitive subjects.
- “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all,” says Whitney Houston in one of her songs.
- To love someone, you must first love yourself.
- It is the virtue of contentment and acceptance.